Reducing tension

Expressing anger

For
example, if you take a day off work to wait in for someone who never
turns up, naturally you feel angry and frustrated. In general, we feel
angry if another person's behaviour towards us is unkind, rude,
aggressive or inconsiderate.Anger needs to be expressed, because
if it gets bottled up it can cause harm or boil over into rage, which
is a very destructive emotion. Anger should be expressed assertively, not aggressively, which means speaking in a strong, steady voice, and not shouting. Remember that losing your temper is never a good solution. It may provide temporary relief, but later on you'll feel bad, which can lead to more anger.How to deal with feelings of rage

• Breathe slowly and deeply.
  
• Try
  a type of yogic breathing called 'the cooling breath'. Inhale slowly
  through your mouth, with your tongue stuck slightly out and folded into
  a tube. Close your mouth and hold the breath for as long as you
  comfortably can. Exhale slowly through your nose. Repeat three times.
  
• Slow down, don't rush into words or actions you may regret.
  
• Go to an empty room where you can't be heard and have a good scream.
  
• Give vent to your feelings by punching a cushion or other soft furniture.
  
• Do something physical like scrubbing the floor or cleaning the car.
  
• Take
  some exercise such as running, walking, cycling or swimming, but don't
  do any fiercely competitive sport because this can increase feelings of
  aggression.
  

Tackle deeper feelings of anger

• talk to someone about the way you feel
  
• ask your GP for help in tackling your feelings
  
• if it's yourself you're angry with, think about whether you're blaming yourself unfairly
  
• think about your anger and whom you're really angry with
  
• express your feelings in writing or painting
  
• practise techniques to make yourself more relaxed and stress-free
  
• do a sport or some exercise that you enjoy
  

Reduce the tension in your life

• talk about your problems
  
• 'escape' into books, movies or games
  
• give in occasionally - it's easier on your system
  
• ease up on criticism - don't expect too much of others or yourself
  
• do things you enjoy and have some fun
  
• tackle one thing at a time
  
• take a rest from being competitive
  

thanks for that hun xx

your welcome

i got loads building up my stomach is that tight

awww ive had that before chick its not nice

i feel like its going to explosed